Tips on Moving In With Your S.O.

Thursday, 20 July 2017


The last 'tips' post I did on Chloe Alice Lily was Tips on Surviving a LDR - Long Distance Relationship for those who don't know - but time has passed since then and distance is no longer an issue for Johnny & I because we have moved in together. In the beginning, it certainly wasn't easy. So, here are my tips on moving in with your S.O, and what to expect if you are about to take that leap of faith! 

Expect Arguments

I was offered this advice a lot when we were about to move in together - expect that you are going to have some nasty rows. Johnny and I rarely fight but that first week, we shouted the house down at each other more than once and in one instance, Johnny even walked out (and I may have locked the door behind him...). However, we realised that we were arguing due to a mixture of stress and major life change and the arguments soon stop. Of course, we still bicker like an old married couple, but the vicious arguments have ended, and have been over for a while!

Respect Each Other

I am extremely controlling when it comes to home furnishings and cleanliness. It's taking time, but Johnny is slowly starting to respect that a messy house makes me quite upset, and is working on being a little tidier. Likewise, as much as I didn't like it at first, I had to learn to respect that Johnny wanted a motorbike and I had to set my fears aside and respect that he needs something mechanic to meddle with!

Understand There May Be a Shift

You're entering a new chapter and so is your relationship. Expect that your relationship might change a little bit. Hopefully, it won't change for the worse! I feel like we have changed; we were a unit before but now we are an even stronger one. The dynamic of your relationship will change. However, don't let the magic die! Remember, you are in a relationship, not roommates! Keep going out for dates, keep reminding each other that you love each other & keep that ... passion ... alive! 

Your Advice

I asked for some advice on Twitter and this is what some of my wonderful followers had to say on the subject:





What are your tips for moving in with an S.O? Share them below!

15 comments

  1. These are some really good tips! I can't share any of my own as it's waaaay too soon for that for me, but great post! I'll keep these in mind for when the time does come for me! X

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  2. I totally agree with most of these I've lived with my boyfriend for two years now and we both definetely do need our own space too! And we get in each other's hair so often x

    Kayleigh Zara 🌿www.kayleighzaraa.com

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    1. Having your own space is so important! X

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  3. I'm so excited to move in with my S.O. but so aware that so many people have said you will argue about things you never even knew annoyed each other! Your relationship sounds similar to mine in the fact that I'm super tidy and my S.O. likes leaving his clothes in a heap on the floor - we'll have to work on that haha! Really enjoyed reading this!
    Alice Xx
    blacktulipbeauty.wordpress.com

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    1. Johnny and I had ridiculous arguments - about WiFi and born again Christians of all things!! It was honestly stupid but it's a combination of stress, change etc. You will be fine after a few weeks xx

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  4. I love this post so so much, I moved in with Luke at the start of this year and I can really relate to this post. All the tips are great also, completely agree!!

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    1. Always like to impart knowledge when it's needed x

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  5. Distance can help! Me and tom have lived together for nearly 3 years now and moving to London was a huge change for us and we were having some of our most explosive rows ever. I lost count of how many times I rang my sister in tears because I thought it was over. Recently I went on a hen party to Spain and it was the first time we'd really been apart in ages and somehow we've both come back together happier and haven't even bickered since so sometimes you need time away doing your own thing!

    Chloe x
    Thengguidetolondon.co.uk

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    1. The rows are horrible but the good outweighs the bad! Interesting what you said about distance - we've found that too! When I was at uni and he was in Dorset, our relationship got so much stronger!! X

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  6. Distance can help! Me and tom have lived together for nearly 3 years now and moving to London was a huge change for us and we were having some of our most explosive rows ever. I lost count of how many times I rang my sister in tears because I thought it was over. Recently I went on a hen party to Spain and it was the first time we'd really been apart in ages and somehow we've both come back together happier and haven't even bickered since so sometimes you need time away doing your own thing!

    Chloe x
    Thengguidetolondon.co.uk

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  7. honestly, after living with students the last three years I'm not sure I can do it again until it's with a SO, I've just had enough of people πŸ˜‚ X

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    1. oml students are the worst (I should know I am one) and with a SO you can yell at each other and know it's not gonna be awks for life afterward πŸ˜‚

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  8. This is such a great post Chloe! Now that I FINALLY got my job hehe Tim and I will finally have the money to move in together so I will certainly keep all these tips in mind! We'll definitely have some arguments about tidiness as I'm like you and rather picky about things whereas Tim leaves things lying everywhere! Lol
    PaleGirlRambling xo

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    1. I think that's just a man thing πŸ˜‚ Good luck Rachael, I'm sure you'll be keeping me updated with how it goes! ✨

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